Black FemDoms (BFD) Atlanta FAQs

What is BFD-Atlanta?

• Black FemDoms-Atlanta, or BFD-Atlanta (BFD), is an adult social group in Georgia that fosters real-time interactions through social and educational opportunities, as well as other real time BDSM activities/events. BFD-Atlanta is exclusively open to all Black Female Masters and Dominants, and inclusive of all submissives and slave, regardless of race, gender, or sexuality who enjoy Black Female led dynamics, power exchanges, authority, and play. As an affinity group, BFD-Atlanta is also Leather and LGBTQ friendly. Confidentiality and discretion are required.

Is the BFD-Atlanta group for me?

• If you support our mission and goal, desire to learn, socialize, and share information in the context of Black Female Dominance, then BFD-Atlanta can be the group for you.
• If you seek online only, are looking for prodomme sessions, OR you are too discrete to meet in a vanilla setting, then BFD-Atlanta is NOT the group for you.

Does BFD-Atlanta have fun or are events just about protocol and service?

• Yes, we have fun! We embrace our kink and fetishes which include both protocol and service. Who says you can’t have fun with those two elements?

Is membership required to participate in BFD-Atlanta?

• Membership is not required, yet you MUST be vetted to attend our private and other vetted events; this includes socials, parties, and some field/road trips. Therefore, we would consider someone a “member” if they have consistently attendance and volunteered over one year and more..

Are there membership fees?

• No

What is a BFD-Atlanta social munch?

• In general, a munch is a casual public (or private) social gathering of like-minded people who practice alternative (BDSM, Leather, etc) lifestyles. A BFD-Atlanta social munch is just that, with the specific attendees being exclusively Black Female Masters, Dominants, and inclusive of all s-types, regardless of race, gender, or sexuality. Confidentiality and discretion are required.

How much does it cost to attend a social munch?

• Cost depends on the venue AND what you desire to purchase from the venue; so prices will vary. Munch and Learn sessions in private venues generally have a flat fee for attending to offset renting the venue. See event postings for cost details.

Who can attend a social munch?

• A person who support the mission and goals of BFD-Atlanta is welcome to submit a request to attend a social munch. A current BFD-Atlanta member may invite/sponsor a guest; the guest must also complete a request to attend. Note that a request is not a guarantee of acceptance to attend; some vetting will occur. Send requests to: rsvp@bfdatlanta.com.

What is vetting?

• For BFD-Atlanta, vetting is a set of attendance requirements that are fulfilled by a person who desires to attend our events. Vetting can include meeting BFD-Atlanta leadership in public, being sponsored by a BFD-Atlanta member, or associating with someone who is vetted in the Atlanta community that may refer said person for vetting. See the vanilla definition of vetting.

Is vetting required for BFD event?

• Vetting is required for most events. Please see Vetting for more details.

Does BFD vet OR provide BDSM-related references for its members?

• No, we do not participate in this activity as a group.

Why do I have to RSVP for a BFD event?

• RSVPs provide us an accurate headcount of attendees. It also is a part of our vetting process; an RSVP submission does not guarantee permission to attendance.

What are BDSM protocols?

• Protocols are a set of requirements, rules, or standards. Protocols encompass three recognized levels in the practice of the lifestyle (BDSM or otherwise): Low, Mid, and High. BFD will advise participants of required protocol(s) for a specific events.

Are there required protocols for social munches?

• Social munches are very casual have no protocols in effect. The Munch and Learn sessions start casual, but may end in low to mid protocol levels depending on the content/topic. We do require good conduct, that you are respectful to other attendees, that you are respectful in the vanilla or private environment where a social/event is held, and that you practice discretion in vanilla venues. BFD does not interfere in personal protocol established between individuals in a dynamic; although we still require discretion and respect for the vanilla environment during its application.

What is BFD’s age requirement?

• To attend munches, events, or play parties, you must be 21 years of age or older.

I am a male dominant most of the time, but I can switch to the bottom for the right woman; it this the right group for me?

• You will have to decide if BFD is right for you. Keep in mind, males must be in bottom mode at all times; there is no switching for men.

Do I need to be in a dynamic to attend BFD events?

• No, all are welcome regardless of being in a dynamic or not.

Can I bring a guest to BFD events?

• Only members may sponsor a kink-friendly/aware guest as long as they understand the purpose and goal of BFD, plus abide by all BFD policies and rules.

I am a FinDom, may I attend?

• No, you may not attend or participate as a FinDom, Financial Dominant. BFD is not a place for recruiting clients or soliciting service.

I am a female switch, how can I find my place in BFD?

• If you are a Black Female who identifies in the Dominant mode, you can participate. If you want to identify with the s-types, you are welcome to do so regardless of race or sexuality.

I am a transman who was a Female Dominant; may I still identify as Dominant if I attend BFD events?

• Unfortunately no; males must be in bottom mode at all times.

I am a male switch; is switching allowed within BFD?

• No, switching is not allowed by males. Males must remain in and serve/play in bottom mode only. Service Topping is also not allowed by males.

I am a Black Female, but I sometimes use male pronouns; am I welcomed?

• Yes. The use of male pronouns is allowed as long as your primary identity during activities is female.

Can I promote my business at BFD-Atlanta events?

• No, you may not. Our events are not the place to solicit business nor to support vendors.

Can I bring kink or BDSM items to sell at BFD-Atlanta events?

• No, you may not sell ANY kink/BDSM items at our events. We do not support this activity.

I am a Female Dominant, but I am not Black, may I attend?

• No, you may not attend. The exclusivity and uniqueness of BFD is to create a space, encourage, and support Black Female M/D-types who participate or practice kink/BDSM.

I am a FemDom, but not a Black FemDom, may I come just for the education?

• No; BFD is an exclusive space for Black Female M/D-types.

I am looking for a BDSM “hook-up”; is the BFD group a good place to start?

• NO, IT IS NOT. We are a casual, adult social munch group whose purpose is to facilitate safe social group gatherings among kink-aware and BDSM lifestyle practicing Black Female M/D-types and all types of submissives (male and female). We are not a prodomme service, dating club, swinging club, or a group for trolling “hook-ups”. This activity is frown upon; your actions in this regard are grounds for removal and denied access to all BFD events.

Can I wear fetish wear or cross dress at a munch?

• No, you cannot wear fetish wear or cross dress at social events at a vanilla venue. Fetish wear, as well as cross dressing, is open and allowed at play parties and private munches. Please view event details for specifics on dress code.

Is drinking allowed at a BFD-Atlanta event?

• Alcohol is not allowed at any BFD event where alcohol is NOT sold. You may not bring alcohol to a schedule munch OR BFD event. The exceptions: a) Alcohol may be purchased and consumed when in a vanilla venue where alcohol is sold in which a munch or event is being held. b) Alcohol MAY be allow for special protocol events/occasions. Note that intoxicated individual will be asked to leave; you are responsible for drinking responsibly and you release BFD of any liability associated with your intoxication. As a RULE, alcohol and intoxicated individuals are NOT allowed at ANY BFD Munch and Learn sessions or play parties. BFD Leaders reserve the right to restrict or prohibit drinking at a BFD munch or event being held in a vanilla venue.

Are munches private and/or discreet?

• For BFD, most social munches are in vanilla venues require attendees to be in “vanilla mode”. That is, maintain privacy and discretion in the environment. For private munches, the venue allows for more relaxation and freedom of expression that could not normally occur in a vanilla venue. Privacy, discretion, and confidentiality will be respected and adhered to by all attendees.

 May I take pictures at BFD-Atlanta events?

• No open photos are allowed. That is, capturing video, cameo or snap shots of an event or people in attendance is not permitted at any time. Exception is for the event photographer who has gained permission from photo subjects.

I would like to take a picture of my scene at a play party; is this allowed?

• No; only an event photographer can do this for you (with your device). Permission and consent of the person in YOUR scene only must be given. As a rule, generally photography is NOT allowed in private dungeon spaces; PLEASE see dungeon rules before attempting photos.

May I take a picture with my own camera of a demo I want to remember?

• No, you may not take a picture of a BFD-Atlanta event at any time.

What is vanilla?

• Simply, everything that is not of the kink/BDSM or alternative lifestyle.

My kink/fetishes are different, will I be accepted?

• Yes, everyone lives or practices a variety of kink/fetishes; there are no hard and fast rules or limits on specific personal practices. Do what you enjoy.

How do you handle people of different gender or sexual identities?

• We welcome all who have an interest in Black Female Dominance. A reminder that all men must be in bottom mode only to maintain the energy of Female Dominance. BFD is LGBTQ friendly.

Are lesbian couples allowed in BFD?

• Yes, as long as the M/D-type is a Black Female. If the couple are s-types; you are welcome regardless of race.

I am new to BDSM; can I still come to events?

• Yes. There is no requirement or rules for attending bases on your longevity in kink/BDSM. Sent a request to attend an open social to: rsvp@bfdatlanta.com.

May I bring my child(ren) to a munch?

• NO, you cannot bring ANY under aged child(ren) to a munch or any other BFD events. Your child(ren) can ONLY attend if they meet BFD’s age requirement (21 years or older).

I am collared; may I wear my collar to a public event?

• Yes, as long as it is discreet for you and the vanilla public. Pet collars or leather collars are not recommended for social munches among the vanilla public.

I am a gay male, but I enjoy providing service and participating in BDSM play with anyone, regardless of race or sexuality; may I come to the munches?

• Yes. Please request to attend an open social to meet us: rsvp@bfdatlanta.com.

I am new to Atlanta and don’t know anyone to vet me; can I still attend a vetted BFD event?

• Yes, you can attend the open socials, but not the private events. You must be vetted to attend a vetted/private BFD event. Please view our Vetting information.

I am new to Atlanta and just want to come to your munch; may I?

• Yes, email us!

I am new to munching and other public events; are there any tips?

• Be polite, respectful, and enjoy yourself!

I do not play publicly; may I still come to a BFD play party event?

• Yes. We ask that you follow any dungeon or play space etiquette and all BFD play party rules.

Are there play party rules, or may we play as we please?

• Yes, there are specific play party rules for BFD play parties. See HERE. BFD requires SSC/ RACK/PRICK/CCC kink/BDSM awareness/practices at our hosted play parties and events. Additionally, keep in mind that play spaces (dungeons) also have party or house rules that must be followed. BFD follows all venue imposed rules IN ADDITION to its own rules when a party is held at said venue. Violation of ANY party or house rules is grounds for removal from said event/party and possible banishment from attending BFD events for more serious offenses. DMs will be on premise and have the final say in discontinuing unsafe scenes.

If I have a BDSM/lifestyle problem or question(s) to ask, who can I contact?

• Yes, you may contact BFD Leadership for ANY lifestyle related questions. We are open to assisting with concerns/questions OR guiding you in the right direction for answers.

This living FAQ list will be updated or edited as required or necessary.